Carte blanche. The principal asked me to give a one and a half hour in-service to the newly hired staff about "communication" in our school. That's a very broad topic when it comes to the variety of kids (and teachers) that we have at our school. Being in a center-based school, however, narrows the types of students that we work with, but also reminds us how humans communicate with each other. I presented a couple of years ago about how we communicate with others verbally, non-verbally, and visually using a few interesting resources: The Dog Whisperer, SuperNanny, and Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish's How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk book.
Verbal CommunicationFaber and Mazlish explain the how to verbalize with kids. It's a pretty good book for parents, educators, and anybody else who works with kids (and other human beings). Their practical approach gives tools to better communication and to promote cooperation. Some of the book might sound touchy, feely, but it is a nice structured approach to communicating with kids at a level that isn't threatening, sarcastic, and demanding. To engage cooperation with children, the authors explained five skills that help with verbal communication:
- Describe. Describe what you see, or describe the problem. "There's a wet towel on the bed."
- Give information. "The towel is getting my blanket wet."
- Say it with a word. "The towel."
- Talk about your feelings. "I don't like sleeping on a wet bed!"
- Write a note. (Use visuals.)
- Let children makes choices. Give kids the power to control their own destiny.
- Show respect for a child's struggle. Allow kids the ability to solve problems, but be there to support their journey for the solution.
- Don't ask too many questions. Facilitate and guide, but don't over do it.
- Don't rush to answer questions. Let kids figure out a solution. Give them time to process. My rule of thumb is to allow children 5 seconds to process and respond before giving any sort of prompt. This is difficult because we tend to expect an answer immediately. Pause. Wait. Pause. Wait some more.
- Give kids personal space. Don't get in their faces, but make sure you get to their level.
- Use pictures, picture schedules, social stories, objects, sign language (all of the above) to augment your communication. Talking to kids doesn't always work. Get creative and use your resources.
Visual SupportsI love the Supernanny! If you haven't seen the show, look it up on YouTube or Hulu. After watching a few episodes, you'll see that she immediately structures families with written rules and visual aids throughout their homes. Not only do visual supports remind children of expectations, it also gives adults reminders of what they should be doing. By having these in place, the rules and structure remain consistent. Now I know Jo Frost (aka Supernanny) works with families at their homes, but much of what she teaches can be done in the classroom. These should be done as universal supports in all types of classrooms--not just students with special needs.
Visual supports reinforce the classroom in the following ways:
- Provide structure and predictability
- Help communicate with readers and non-readers
- Simple solutions
- Used to improve classroom behavior
- Students have better behavior and performance when expectations are clearly stated (with visual supports)
In whatever venue you are in, visual supports assist almost everyone. In schools, students rely on supports for rules, schedules, expectations, and following directions. In rehab/nursing facilities and hospitals, written schedules (white boards) help keep patients oriented and give them the comfort of knowing what is expected in terms of appointments, therapy schedules, and medication times. If there is one thing that we preach at our school, it is that visual supports are an expectation in all environments. Use first/then cards, visual timers, daily schedules, social stories, or anything else you can personally create to make communication better! By making conscious efforts and keeping in mind the various communication methods discussed, communication can make life easier for all!